The sole other family member I've told, and the last remaining man knowing of my lifestyle alternative, is my closest cousin. She's fine with it, but like many folks, prefers me to stay dressed if she's visiting. Yet here comes the crux of it all, my dilema, how do I go about telling my pals? I 've, like us all I'm certain, some very close friends. Some that I've known for over 20 years, infact we